Taking My Own Advice
There is something that I think is true about being human. When we dream of being a parent, or doing anything important with our lives for that matter, we always have the very best of intentions. We imagine a beautiful outcome, whether it’s an accomplished career, a loving marriage, or raising a happy child. Having a dream is an important first step, because it helps us identify the values and principles that are most important to us.
For me, right now I am dreaming about creating a refreshing and helpful website for parents of young children. My intentions are lofty. Specifically, my Bird’s Eye View includes a beautiful and easy place to go where we can talk about the big things that matter for young children and what we can all do to best support them. My dream is sharing real parenting tools and gathering intelligent viewpoints that will allow parents to be positive, respectful and effective.
Ask Big Questions
Before you can begin charting a focused and clear path for your parenting journey, begin asking yourself these universal questions:
- Why am I here?
- What do I believe in?
- What do I want my child to learn?
Think carefully about the qualities you hope to encourage in your precious child’s character and disposition. (If you are expecting, this is the reason pregnancy takes 9 months!) After some thought, write them all down. That’s your Bird’s Eye View that I promise is going to try and get lost in the day to day. Let’s all hold on to our best intentions, and see if we can figure out how to get there step by step.
Now you are ready for the Magical List of Child Raising Steps to write down and efficiently cross off one by one….forgive my sarcasm.
You can easily find scores of methods and tactics for parenting on bookstore shelves and online. Just two of the great titles out there for newborns gotta make you smile: The Perfect Baby Handbook: A Guide for Excessively Motivated Parents or how about Let’s Panic About Babies? Today there are 177 pages of parenting book titles on the Barnes and Noble website. I’m afraid to check Amazon. With that giant haystack of information, I know that it’s a major miracle that you even found me!
My point is that there are many different paths for parenting, but if they don’t tightly revolve around the developmental needs of children, they won’t work for either of you. There are many shiny distractions and easy tips out there that will divert your attention if you’re not focused on your Bird’s Eye View.
How Would it Feel?
To confidently stand back and watch your child construct themselves in a safe and structured home or school that provided choices, challenges, and respect for their internal powers?
To understand how to enhance the unique and amazing ways that your 3 to 6 year old child learns?
To look deeply into your child’s eyes and see who they are?
To believe that you were meant to do this important work, and that what you need to know is already inside of you?
Notes to Self—
- Stay focused on a path of enriching the journeys of 3 to 6 year old children and their parents. Encourage, educate, and enjoy.
- Take one small step every day toward my big picture.
- Remind myself that I am meant to do this. I know a lot, and thankfully I know many who know more than I do.